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Name: Clair Mikye Email: 
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Country:   IP Address:  Date: 20 Mar 2008 15:40:23 GMT

Comment: Hi BHNF I have been really down, thinking about all sorts of things, I have isolated myself to think, but the more isolated I am getting the worse my mind is getting. Do you think I am suffering from depression? Cheers

Dear Clair,

What sort of things have you been thinking about? write down all those things and the reasons for them. For each the reasons you give, make a problem solving mind map in terms of what you could do to imrpove your mind wellbeing.

It is healthy to go out, socialize, be in touch with the love ones, even if it seems hard, it is a very positive thing to do, talk about the way you feel, if you feel confortabel with any of your friends. don't  break loose from the world, because you will only find that you'll get more down and then it might leave you depression.

 what triggered this feelings of isolation. what could you do to feel more positive? what are the things in life that make you happy, content?

I strongly advice you to talk with someone, GP, Nurse, Psychotherapist, Psychologist about this feelings, it is a relief if you can share and talk it with someone.

 

Taking into account what you wrote, BHNF hopes to have helped you in some way. If you would like to ask anything else or discuss any further issues, you can always post us another message at any time. BHNF will make the best in answering within 24 hours.

 

Name: Amy Email: 
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Country:   Date: 13 Mar 2008 22:38:55 GMT

Q. For more awful that it seems, I have been really down since I found out I was pregnant, could you give ny advice, or leave me a message in how to get my life back into perspective? I don not know why? Is it normal? Amy

 

Dear Amy,

Here it is a few general questions you could ask yourself. For best results, BHNF believes you should write down the answers, as a form of brain storm in finding yourself again and situating your worries.

  1. Is it normal for a woman to feel strange “weird and wonderful”, when she finds out she’s pregnant?
  2. Why?
  3. Are you worried about the change in your world?
  4. What will it change?
  5. What are the changes are you worried about?
  6. What are the Good Changes and rewards?
  7. How are you going to make the best of your pregnancy?
  8. Write down a forecast for your life with baby, don’t forget to include in your forecast, any of this relevant roles to you: You as a Mother, You as a partner, Best time to go back to work, Financial plan, Your Home, Your transport, Your hobby, Your Friends and Family, etc.
  9. Make sure you do your health check ups with midwife and GP.
  10. Keep your mind healthy and positive. Taking into account what you wrote, BHNF hopes to have helped you in some way. If you would like to ask anything else or discuss any further issues, you can always post us another message at any time. BHNF will make the best in answering within 24 hours.

Name: JB                          Email:

                                       Date: 14 Mar 2008 21:15:67 GMT

Q. I am trying to figure out if I am depressed or something else totally. I have since I can remember have had extended periods of the blues, where I just dont feel like life is worth living. I have had no enthusiam for anything, hence my 10 year college career where I just graduated because it was time. I would have to say that most of my days I just sit around hating everything about me. I think about suicide but here is the problem, most people dont see me how I am really thinking. To most people I am like this happy person, and I know thats how they think so suicide has always been out of the question because I dont want people to realize who I am. The problem is that it is getting so hard to fake it with in the past 10 months. I go to work and I sit and stare and accomplish nothing most days. At night I am crying a lot. I dont even know why I began to feel like this in the first place, since nothing ever tramatic has happened to me in my life. I had a middle class life with both parents. I cant figure it out. I am trying to figure out if this is depression or something totally different.

 

Hi JB

 

These are the points that stood out from your post:

-         Do you think you are depressed?

-         Extended periods of blues? What have triggered the blues? Write down some options, break down some events that led you to feel down.

-         Why is life not worse it?

-         What would make it worth it?

-         What do you hate about you? What would make you love yourself more? Anything you can work on?

                - Are you happy in your job? Is it not fulfilling you? What job would?

                - What are your motivations to wake up in the morning? Even that the job might not be right, do you think about the money you are earning?

                - Why are you crying, what are the reasons? Make a mind map, the things that make me Sad, and the thing that makes me happy?

                - once you start brain storming about it you might find answers and find out that something might actually had happen, in terms of what you would like to have done and didn’t or any other issues that can be addressed with a problem-solving to line up what would make you happy

               

I strongly advice you to talk with someone, GP, Nurse, Psychotherapist, Psychologist about this feelings of suicide, it is a relief if you can share and talk it with someone.

 

Taking into account what you wrote, BHNF hopes to have helped you in some way. If you would like to ask anything else or discuss any further issues, you can always post us another message at any time. BHNF will make the best in answering within 24 hours.